How do I know this?

It happened to my father — My parents got divorced when I was two years old. Out of revenge, my mom intentionally kept my dad out of my life. I never knew my own father. He missed me growing up. I am sure this sad fact influences my actions to this day.

And, most recently, it happened to me!

When my ex-wife served me with a fraudulent protection order, it was as if I was attacked while blindfolded with my hands tied behind my back. I didn’t see it coming and when I was hit with a divorce and a restraining order that prevented me from seeing my children – I felt helpless.

So, why would my Ex do such a despicable thing to me and our children you might ask?

7 Reasons Why Fathers Going Through Divorce Should Prepare for Getting Served with a Restraining Order

1. Your ex will want to end the relationship and come out as much of a “winner” as the law will allow (and believe me, it will allow a LOT!) I’m sorry to say it but our legal system is often manipulated in favor of women. If the husband was an actual abuser in any way, then yes, a restraining order should be served. If he actually committed a crime then he should be criminally charged and the kids taken away from him immediately. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case and many innocent fathers are faced with fraudulent protection orders or restraining orders and dragged needlessly through the court system.

2. Your ex and her lawyer will want gain an advantage in a divorce. Many immoral divorce lawyers routinely advise women to get a restraining order so they can win custody, higher alimony and much more. That is exactly what my ex’s lawyer did to me.

3. Your ex will want to quickly get custody of your children without a hearing. Yes, this is possible! Moreover, your ex-wife can actually have a secret hearing that you are NOT even allowed to attend.

4. The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) provides Federal funding for the States to set up “professional victims” groups, whose sole purpose is to discriminate against men and perpetuate the stereotype that men are abusers. That’s even if we are good, innocent dads in a bad marriage. This act financially incentivizes the “Divorce Industry” to take unnecessary actions against innocent fathers.

5. Your ex will simply watch you suffer because she’s angry. I went through nearly 2 years of restraining order hell because my ex was simply angry with me. Because of this, I was continually subjected to criminal prosecution. My ex actually went so far as to tell all of my children that I did not want to see them even though I was prevented from doing so by the restraining order. It took me four (4) court hearings just to re-establish visitation with them while all that time my ex was telling them that I just did not want to see them. To this day, despite everything I have done to get them back in my life, I am sure they still believe her lies to a certain extent.

6. Your ex will want to control and manipulate you. Many ex-wives want you to beg for their mercy. As a caring father, you don’t want to be kept out of your children’s lives. You don’t want to miss their basketball games, softball games, martial arts competitions, and dance recitals. You don’t want to miss their birthday parties and their graduations. You don’t want to miss watching your children grow up. If you don’t have the proper knowledge, women can hang your children that you dearly love, your financial independence and your freedom over your head to get whatever they want from you.

7. Your ex will want to stop you from modifying custody after your child expresses a desire to live with you. To make sure my children felt unloved by me my wife didn’t let me buy them any gifts. She never answered my phone calls. I was threatened not to show up when my son was very sick and in the hospital, even though he asked for me to be there at his side. And, she told them lies about me. My oldest son didn’t speak to me for 11 months because of her lies.

These are just seven out of thousands of motives that women have to get a restraining order against innocent fathers. Now I wrote this article for one reason – and only reason only. I want to prepare to you for the inevitable. I didn’t think it would happen to me – yet it did and because I was unprepared, I went through 20 months of restraining order hell.

Because, I don’t want that to happen to you, I encourage you to get my FREE eBook: “Root of All Evil Part 1: How the Divorce Industry Steals Kids Away From Innocent Dads” Get it now at www.RestrainingOrder911.com

Ron Lasorsa here with my latest blog post on Restraining Order 911. I am continuing the education process of the elements that go into fighting the divorce industry if you have been charged with a restraining order. I want to talk about a particular insidious tool called the CWOF (Continued Without Finding.) The CWOF is something similar to a no contest plea or a fancy word -nolo contender. It is called different things in different states. In essence, what it is is a carrot for those individuals that have been charged with a violation of a restraining order. It is an admission that the state has facts sufficient to obtain a conviction if they went ahead and tried the case. It is often held out as a carrot to the individual, “Oh well we do not want you to go through this cumbersome dirty trial by jury of your own peers please just except this from the magnanimous divorce machine”. Well, don’t take it because it is a bad deal. Let me tell you why- you may think you are getting off light the first time around but it is an admission that the state has facts sufficient to convict you- Even if you said aliens came down and caused you to violate the restraining order. If you take the CWOF, you have admitted those facts and then they can turn around and use them for subsequent violations of the restraining order. For those individuals who are unjustly accused of a restraining order and then have a vindictive ex spouse who is then continually filing violations of the restraining order, a CWOF is not your friend. Avoid it at all costs; tough it out and use the facts that are on your side to prove your innocence. There is no easy way to get around this, do not take the bait. If you find that what I am saying has merit or if you think you know somebody who could use this information please go to www.RestrainingOrder911.com and buy the book but, more importantly share the information. Go to the bottom of this blog page where it says “share” and click on it. Submit it to Delicious, post it to Facebook, send it in an email. The only way we are going to keep innocent people out of jail is if we get the word out.

In today’s blog post I’d like to talk about an interesting development that I found on YouTube. There’s a gentleman with a website called DaddyJustice.com and I wanted to give him a shout out because during the course of his own personal battle, which he describes as six and a half years and four-hundred thousand dollars, he has actually attained the rarest of animals in the divorce field. He fought through the process and won a perjury conviction against the mother of his child—a woman who had made false accusations against him. The website is DaddyJustice.com and he has an interesting series of videos on there where he chronicles all of his trials and tribulations.
So this week, I wanted to talk with you about why it is difficult to obtain a perjury conviction in a false restraining order or in the case of false accusations made against you by your partner. I’m referring to something called SLAPP (Strategic Lawsuit Against Public Participation). The Wikipedia definition of SLAPP is: “a lawsuit or a threat of lawsuit that is intended to intimidate and silence critics by burdening them with the cost of a legal defense until they abandon their criticism or opposition. Winning the lawsuit is not necessarily the intent of the person filing the SLAPP. The plaintiff’s goals are accomplished if the defendant succumbs to fear, intimidation, mounting legal costs or simple exhaustion and abandons the criticism. A SLAPP may also intimidate others from participating in the debate.”

Originally, SLAPP was created by the California legislature to solve an issue that arose between environmentalists and logging companies. The environmentalists wanted to file suit against the logging companies, but the logging companies with their unlimited funding and resources would simply file lawsuit upon lawsuit on the environmentalists to try to wear them down. So the legislature put in place this SLAPP provision so that the logging companies could not use lawsuits to try to silence their opposition.

Now, the divorce industry has perverted that process and said that in the case of divorce, the defendant could not file a perjury charge against their ex-spouse if they had a reasonable basis to feel that their charges were correct. So basically, my ex-wife could file any charge she wanted against me, with the only provision being that she feels she has a reasonable basis for them. Never mind that my due process rights are violated, and that I’m not allowed to countersue for perjury. The real kicker is that if I was found to have violated her SLAPP rights, I would be responsible for paying her attorney’s fees. And who decides if her charges have a reasonable basis? The judge, who is also part of the Divorce Industry.

The idea I’m trying to get across is that in the case of SLAPP, legislatures have granted it with a noble purpose of allowing activists to file charges against big business, but the Divorce Industry has perverted it and interpreted it to mean that a Plaintiff can file a domestic violence lawsuit without fear of reprisal or the defendant to file perjury charges if in fact the claims were untrue.

This is just one of the reasons why restraining orders are so tough to beat; and more evidence about how insidious the Divorce Industry is. They are willfully allowing liars to file false charges in order to separate children from their own fathers.